The Cherry On Top
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- Nov 16, 2020
- 6 min read
Updated: Jan 19, 2021
The stigma surrounding sex toys is restricting us all from reaching optimal pleasure; whether that be in a receiving or giving sense. But then again, knowing which toys will work for you is hard right? Wrong. Here, I will enlighten you on: their uses, their benefits, and which ones are right for what you want.
So you may be thinking that this is all daunting and new - and sure, it absolutely is at first - but, I've got you. That said, I'm only 21 and I'm still learning, so whilst everything I say is not gospel, it is based on true, honest, lived experiences. I hope that sharing these experiences with you will educate, inspire and enlighten you. Through talking about sex - and about all the little extras that can be used to enhance your experience - we can start having BETTER SEX. Now, who doesn't want that?
The only thing you have to do is get hold of these toys and be prepared to feel unbelievable...
For The Girls
Ok, so, you know how you've been wondering if you're alone in not being able to have an orgasm from penetrative sex? Well, I have some reassuring news for you. Roughly 75% of women have that same 'problem'. As cisgender women, we have a G-spot, an A-spot, and a C-spot. Lucky us! The question is: how do we find them?
Sex toys, like rabbits (rampant rabbit vibrators) are a great way to stimulate both your G-spot and clitoris; I'll tell you about some of my personal favs now.
- Lovehoney: Rampant Rabbit Vibrator - Frisky 10 Function Silicone Rabbit Vibrator
This silky, smooth toy is small but sensational; with 10 different modes, all kinds of sensitivities can be catered for. Trust me, you won't regret this purchase.
- Lovehoney: Rampant Rabbit Vibrator - Beginners Silicone Rabbit Vibrator
This toy is non-threatening and inexpensive, so it's a great one for newbies. It has 10 settings to accommodate for differing levels of sensitivity, but the reason I love this is because it has a textured shaft, which adds to the internal stimulation. Equally, it is waterproof so can be used in either the bath or the shower which are great places to explore and look after your body.
- Lovehoney: Rampant Rabbit Vibrator - Desire Luxury Rechargeable Rabbit Vibrator
This toy is a luxurious buy, something you'd be waiting at the door for the postman to deliver once the order is placed. It is a complete self-indulgence and is an absolute means of treating yourself. It is rechargeable with USB which makes your life easier - it can even become a bedside table decoration as its charging! The silky smooth texture, coupled with its 8 built-in vibration settings and 12 intensity levels, will leave your eyes rolling to the back of your head.
I will continue to buy more rabbits, but as it stands these three are my personal favourites; any updates I'll let you know. Now, I understand that internal sex toys can be a little daunting - rabbits included - so vibrators, which rest on the clitoris, are always a good shout. Honestly, you can just use an electric toothbrush for this matter, but, if you do want to venture into the realm of toys, these ones are great:
- Lovehoney: Clitoral Vibrator - Screaming O Screamin Demon Extra Quiet Clitoral Vibrator
As a student, I used to show my housemates the toys I'd use, but I am aware that this is not the norm and that most people want to be quiet and discreet about their self-pleasuring activities. This toy is perfect for that; it is whisper-quiet but remains powerful. It is a unique shape, that vibrates and stimulates your vulva and labia area, giving you a very different clitoral orgasm from those achieved by bullet vibrators.
- Jo Divine: Bullet Vibrator - Rocks Off Bamboo
This vibrator is great for solo and couple play, and can be used on your clitoris or nipples, or wherever feels good! It is small enough to add in while having sex, to maximise your pleasure and allow you to reach orgasm. It features 3 speeds and 7 pulsation patterns and its flat tip allows you to apply it precisely where you like it, directly pleasuring your sweet spots. The other great thing about this toy is its discreet nature; it looks like a lipstick so chuck it in your bag, put it in your suitcase when travelling to Dubai, or hide it in your makeup bag when you're at home. Or indeed, display it on your mantle piece.
Reverting back to the penetrative sex toys, there are three that spring to mind:
- Jo Divine: The Cuddle Mini
This G-spot stimulator has a flexible shaft, which allows you to find just the right place; you'll know when you've found it, trust me! This toy has 7 vibration patterns and 6 intensity levels, so it caters for all needs. It is rechargeable with USB which is great as battery powered toys are often weaker - and the batteries are a pain to replace.
- Jo Divine: Pulsator - Fun Factory Stronic Eins Pulsator
This toy doesn't vibrate, oh no, it thrusts! It uses magnets to pulsate and simulates thrusting. It is waterproof which you already know is a big plus, and has a great feature; to turn it on you press the red button which says: FUN.
- Jo Divine: Dildo - Fun Factory Big Boss G5 Vibrator
If you are not into big - and admittedly quite intimidating - toys, this may not be the one for you. But for those who like more extreme play, and pleasure, the Big Boss G5 is one of a kind. It'ss great for G-spot and A-spot stimulation, is rechargeable, flexible, and features 5 vibration intensities and 4 rhythms. This one is a must for those of you that like a well-endowed man.
For The Boys
So, I am not a penis-owner and am acutely aware that most guys don't even consider buying themselves a sex toy; "I mean, it's just not gunna feel better than the real thing is it"? I understand this point of view, but men deserve to have incredible orgasms as much as women do and some of these toys may help!
- Lovehoney: Penis Masterbator - Tenga Egg Lovers Heart Textured Male Masterbator
This toy features a silky, smooth, soft internal sleeve, to offer intense stimulation. The textures inside stimulate the penis, allowing you to give your partner an unforgettable hand job... now how does that sound to you?
- Jo Divine: Penis Masterbator - Factory Fun Manta
The Manta is great for both solo and couple play. For solo play, simply add lube then stroke up and down. For couple play, place it around the base of the penis as your partner gives you a blow job for a deep-throat feel. It's a vibrating toy, with 6 speeds and vibration patterns, so its multifunctional nature caters for every need.
Something else that's enjoyable for both men and women is glass toys. I am a big fan of temperature play and using either glass or metal toys can be a great way to do some. You can place them in the fridge (not the freezer) or in a bowl of hot water and away you go. This can provide a brand new sensation which can enhance the whole experience. Another option is E-stimulation. E-stim toys send electrical stimulations to wherever they are placed; they come in constriction rings, nipple clamps and anal toys so there's a variety of options for you to choose from. Not only are they great for providing a unique sensation, they are also great for strengthening your pelvic floor!
I hope this has given you some ideas for what to buy to enhance your sexual experiences. Before I leave this post, I would just like to give you some general information on how best to look after your sex toys. With glass and metal toys, you can simply place them in the dishwasher or use soap and water when they need cleaning. With silicone toys, it's best to use a sex toy cleaner or soap and water. These toys are also known to attract fluff so after washing them, use a hair dryer and store them separately, in a sock as opposed to in a draw collecting dust. The other thing to ensure is that the toys you buy are skin-safe; avoid anything made from jelly latex or rubber as they are hard to clean and degrade with certain lubes. But, not to worry, all of the toys I have mentioned above are, of course, safe for you to use.
Just remember that sex toys don't have to be scary, they are fun and a great way to love and look after your body.
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