What is your speciality, your USP, your 'thing'? What can you bring to a relationship that others can't? How can you use this dazzling personality of yours to entice a lover? Well listen here because I may have the answer.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a questionnaire, designed to determine how individuals perceive and act in the world. It breaks people up into four categories: introversion (I) or extraversion (E), sensing (S) or intuition (N), thinking (T) or feeling (F), judging (J) or perceiving (P). For simplicity, one letter from each of these categories are taken to create your four-letter result, i.e. ISTJ or ENFP.
Knowing and understanding your personality type can provide you with valuable insight into what you're like as a lover, meaning you can play on your strengths for their satisfaction. If you're dying to know what the experts say about you, why not give the test a go by following this link: https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new
You are probably aware of your personality traits, of what comes naturally to you and what you have to work at. After all, you're you. YOU know YOU best, right? Wrong.
This test may give you a little insight into yourself and highlight things you didn't see before. What's more, I'll tell you how to read your results and play on your strengths to become a better lover.
Now, you may be thinking, how would a silly little test on a brainless computer know me better than me? I'm with me all the time. Well, just give it a chance; trust me.
ISTJ - The Inspector
Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: dedication
You are super organised, observant and orderly, so as a lover you are equally as dedicated to your partner as you are to having everything in its place. You are dependable, reliable and a great communicator; three traits which are key to a strong and successful relationship. In the bedroom, you may stick to what you know, but you'll be oh so good at that thing.
ISTP - The Crafter
Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is being: chill a.f.
You are confident, curious and care-free. You rarely take no for an answer and are always up for new, fun adventures. This may make you a little unreliable and spontaneous at times, but you're so chilled that really, anything goes. If you're a guy, cowgirl is probably your fav position!
ISFJ - The Protector
Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: supportiveness
As a protector, you are fiercely defensive; you have your lover's back at all times. This reliability is coupled with a lot of empathy and sensitivity, meaning you're great at offering emotional support and being there for them. By making your lover feel heard and supported, they will reside in you and see you as their comfort blanket, defender and team mate. They will likely feel comfortable discussing their sexual fantasies and desires with you. You're never judgemental.
ISFP - The Artist
Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: creativity
You challenge traditions, you think outside the box and you get a lot of your inspiration from the connections you form with others. By having your own mind, you appreciate hidden, subtle beauties in people that other people may overlook. You see something beautiful in everyone and you select your lover based on an unseen beauty that only you have noticed and appreciated. This warmth and positivity will ensure that your lover feels seen and valued. You will likely be great at making your partner feel attractive and wanted in the bedroom, which does wonders for your sex life; making your partner feel comfortable rather than self-conscious is key to them relaxing into whatever it is that you're doing.
INFJ - The Advocate
Introverted, Intuition, Feeling, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: intuition
You are intrigued by what drives people and whilst you may come across as reserved and introverted, you are always analysing others to gauge and grasp their inner selves. This is conducted in a sensitive manner however, it's not overly intrusive or aggressive. Your desire to understand others makes you a brilliant lover, as you're sensitive to the needs of your partner and value them being their true selves around you. As a relatively private person, your lover will feel comfortable discussing their wants, needs and desires with you, and as you are open-minded, you will probably be very accepting. You'll also be great at knowing when "I'm fine" means the exact opposite.
INFP - The Mediator
Introverted, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: loyalty
(the opposite of this... remember aha)
As a mediator, you have an incredibly pure heart; you have good intentions and care a lot about others. You are loyal, devoted, and value the relationships you form. This translates to you being a supportive lover, who does not put themselves first; instead, you strive to make both/all parties happy and do so by putting the needs of your partner first. If BDSM is your thing, you may make a great submissive, wanting to play on your devotion and innocence.
INTJ - The Architect
Introverted, Intuition, Thinking, Judging
Your USP as a lover is being: intriguing
Think Sherlock Holmes. You are fascinated by abstract concepts and love problem-solving. You are confident in your intellectual abilities but can take constructive criticism, as you see it as a way to improve. As a lover, you have high expectations - so choose your partner wisely. You do not fall instantly head over heels or become blinded by love, but you are fascinating to be around and create an environment wherein two minds can think, connect and form a great bond.
Remember: smart is the new sexy.
INTP - The Thinker
Introverted, Intuition, Thinking, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: independence
You are a great thinker and you like to have your own time and space to indulge in this passion of yours. As a lover, you are seldom emotional in your confrontations and aren't fazed by either a debate or an argument; you have bigger things to think about. Your independence will, therefore, appeal to someone who is looking for a companion who has their own life and interests. Transferred into the bedroom, you will likely know exactly what works for you - and your partner - so everyone will be satisfied.
ESTP - The Persuader
Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: spontaneity
You are gregarious, energetic, and outgoing; impulsive, great at improvising, and even better at talking to new people. Your people skills mean you are able to carry your partner in social settings, meaning they always feel supported by you. Not only that, your charm, wit and sensuality make you a great lover, who is spoiling, romantic and spontaneous.
ESTJ - The Director
Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: stability
As an orthodox individual, you hold tradition and rules in high regard. You are confident, dependable and hard-working. As a partner, you are decisive and dominant, so depending on what you and your partner are into, that could be fun... You are also incredibly committed so you'll be the perfect balance of sexy and stable. Pairs well with a Mediator (INFP).
ESFP - The Performer
Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is being: fun fun fun
You are the entertainer, the life and soul of the party. You are sociable and optimistic so you're a lot of fun to be around. As a lover, you don't think about the future; you focus on living in - and enjoying - the moment. This light-hearted fun extends to the bedroom; you're up for trying new things and don't take it all too seriously. You're the type who can giggle during sex; it's meant to be fun after all!
ESFJ - The Caregiver
Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: kindness
You are kind and generous. You love hard and prioritise the wellbeing of others. Therefore, as a lover you are supportive, loyal and loving. Commitment is your thing and you are always there for those you love, especially your partner. If you like day time spooning and nose kisses, find yourself an ESFJ (one of these).
ENFP - The Champion
Extroverted, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: warmth
You are charming, charismatic, and highly creative. You are not as excitable as The Performers; instead, you use this charm as a means of forming connections with people. This is something you really care about, and as a lover you enjoy finding that deeper meaning. You are devoted, reliable and perceptive. This, coupled with a great sense of humour, sets you apart from others and makes you both fun and calming to be around.
ENFJ - The Giver
Extroverted, Intuition, Feeling, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: motivation
You are the catalyst for development and growth; you work hard and help others do the same. You are motivating to be around so are a great lover to both those like you and those who need a little help getting off the sofa. In a relationship, you are encouraging, empathetic and great at communicating; in return, you like stability and comfort. Having this certainty allows you to bring out the best in yourself and your partner, whether it be in the office or in the bedroom.
ENTP - The Debater
Extroverted, Intuition, Thinking, Perceiving
Your USP as a lover is: communication
You love engaging in debates, analysing people, and trying to understand different ideas from your own. Self-improvement is important to you and is something you bring into a relationship. You like to test your limits, as well as those of your potential partners - whilst this is predominantly in an intellectual manner, you may want to test other limits in the bedroom. Something tells me that as an ENTP, dirty talk would be right up your street.
ENTJ - The Commander
Extroverted, Intuition, Thinking, Judging
Your USP as a lover is: confidence
You are confident and dominant, which to many is super sexy. This assertiveness may extend to the bedroom which can create a great dom-sub dynamic. Not only are you dominant in the bedroom, you are also great at decision-making, planning and being positive. You are self-assured so rarely need reassurance which to some may come across as cold, but trust me, they'll know that you're serious by your commitment, interest in the future, and sensuality in the bedroom.
So, if you've got this far and still haven't done this test, what are you doing? Go do it. Now.
(from your ever-loving ENTJ Commander)